18 Secret Reasons People Broke Up With Their Partner Posted by Claudia Santos Last Updated: August 10, 2024 18 Secret Reasons People Broke Up With Their Partner Sometimes (hopefully all the time), it’s pretty clear why a relationship ended. Other times, the truth can be a little hard to spit out when you’re breaking up with someone. So when redditor u/LamyChimmy asked the r/AskReddit community to share the real reason they broke up with their significant other that they’ll never find out about, folks sure opened up. Here are some of the most shocking, heartbreaking, and flat-out WTF stories. 1. “The way she treated me reminded me of how my mom treated my dad, and I never wanted to have a relationship as crappy as my parents.” 2. “She told me that she could never see herself marrying a teacher because of money and prestige issues. I’m a teacher. She’s also a teacher.” —u/daskk 3. “She had huge student loan debt, only $14k for income, and bought a $30k car!” 4. “I told her I didn’t want to have kids. That was a lie. I didn’t want to have her kids.” —u/ChezySpam 5. “Lack of personal hygiene and alcoholism. When your toothbrush goes untouched for a month, I ain’t kissing you. Also, when you’re 35, have no job, and expect your 25-year-old girlfriend to take care of you, it’s not gonna work.” 6. “I met my significant other’s family. Suddenly, her otherwise easy-to-ignore weird personality traits got huge once I saw them writ large on similar-looking people. Her brother AND dad were just so obnoxious, attacking minor things I said. She didn’t do this at all, and I really felt sorry for her sitting there at dinner, but I was plotting an escape route before the meal was over. These traits in my SO showed up only when emotions got high, so up until then, I just brushed them off; most people aren’t at their best when angry/annoyed/upset. But after that dinner, it was not ignorable.” —u/rareas 7. “I made up this personality for him because he was mostly quiet. So I just pretended he was this creative, funny, intelligent guy. I was with him for almost a year before I realized that silence doesn’t equal intelligence.” 8. “His mom told me I could do better than her son. A lot of people had told me this, but it didn’t really mean anything until she said it.” —u/ennaneked 9. “I could deal with, ‘You should dress up/wear high heels more often.’ I could even deal with, ‘You should wear more makeup.’ What I could not deal with was, ‘You should think less.’ That was a direct quote. And that wasn’t a one-off.” 10. “He wouldn’t perform oral on me ever because he said it was demeaning and got so pissy when I wouldn’t give him blow jobs. In general, I felt used.” —u/[deleted] 11. “I told her that I was breaking up with her because she could never get her priorities straight about our relationship. While this is somewhat true, the real reason I broke up with her was because she felt too safe with me. She was doing worse in school because she felt like she only needed me. She was slowly driving away her friends because we would spend a lot of time together and was constantly having problems with her family because I was in her life. It’s been a year now, and in this time, she’s grown to have a healthy relationship with her friends and family and has not only brought herself back up in school but also found and began pursuing what she wants to do in life. She kind of hates me now, but I’m fine with that.” 12. “My niece died. The day before her funeral, I called him crying. He told me to ‘just get over it.'” —u/srh6 13. “I wasn’t physically attracted to him. It may sound shallow, but relationships need a physical aspect. Ours didn’t have that — it was purely emotional, and I ended up suffering because I wasn’t physically interested in him. I would never tell him this, though, because it would crush him.” 14. “His mother had depression and would go missing for a couple of days at a time. He was given warnings at work for when he was late because he was looking after his mother, and he was too proud to tell them what was going on. He really is a wonderful person, and I still care for him. I couldn’t tell him I had been diagnosed with depression, too; he had enough on his plate already, and I didn’t want to burden him with the thought I could turn out like his mother.” —u/ifeelsosoft 15. “I broke up with my last ex because I found myself completely repulsed by him. He smoked, drank, ate nothing but junk food, and farted like a Clydesdale in his sleep all night long. His car was disgusting — it stunk, and the interior was covered in ashes and cigarette butts. The seats had tater tots ground into them, and you couldn’t even see the floorboards through all the trash. His house was absolutely filthy, too. It stunk of old smoke and cooking grease, had old newspapers piled up in the corners, and you couldn’t even tell what color the carpets had originally been.” 16. “He said he couldn’t love someone who didn’t love Jesus. He tried to convert me to being straight with religion (I’m bi). I just told him that I didn’t like him that way anymore because I thought I was a bigot for not agreeing with his religion. I should have told him that he was a jerk for trying to make me be religious and making me hide who I am.” —u/KTcube 17. “I broke up with my ex because of a Hot Pocket. He was staying at my house because his mother (he was 23) kicked him out of his own place. He went grocery shopping for himself for the very first time and bought only a bulk assortment of Hot Pockets. Upon opening the first one, he went into a dead serious, very angry manic frenzy because he didn’t understand how to microwave it. And I quote, yelled, “WHAT THE FUCK IS A CRISPING SLEEVE?” I told him I wasn’t ready for him to live with me and that I needed my space. That goddamn Hot Pocket was the straw that broke the camel’s back.” 18. “He had come home from work and spent quite a while in the bathroom. When he finally got into bed and asked me to spoon him, there it was: He had yellow-orangish chunky mustard shit smeared all up his ass crack. I just couldn’t deal with that. I immediately excused myself to the restroom and then pretended like I had an urgent call. I told him I had to go home, and then the next day, I dumped him. He thinks I dumped him because I wasn’t that into him.” —u/NegativecapS Is there a secret reason you ended your relationship that you never revealed during your breakup? Tell us about it in the comments or fill out this anonymous form. Source link
Sometimes (hopefully all the time), it’s pretty clear why a relationship ended. Other times, the truth can be a little hard to spit out when you’re breaking up with someone. So when redditor u/LamyChimmy asked the r/AskReddit community to share the real reason they broke up with their significant other that they’ll never find out about, folks sure opened up. Here are some of the most shocking, heartbreaking, and flat-out WTF stories. 1. “The way she treated me reminded me of how my mom treated my dad, and I never wanted to have a relationship as crappy as my parents.” 2. “She told me that she could never see herself marrying a teacher because of money and prestige issues. I’m a teacher. She’s also a teacher.” —u/daskk 3. “She had huge student loan debt, only $14k for income, and bought a $30k car!” 4. “I told her I didn’t want to have kids. That was a lie. I didn’t want to have her kids.” —u/ChezySpam 5. “Lack of personal hygiene and alcoholism. When your toothbrush goes untouched for a month, I ain’t kissing you. Also, when you’re 35, have no job, and expect your 25-year-old girlfriend to take care of you, it’s not gonna work.” 6. “I met my significant other’s family. Suddenly, her otherwise easy-to-ignore weird personality traits got huge once I saw them writ large on similar-looking people. Her brother AND dad were just so obnoxious, attacking minor things I said. She didn’t do this at all, and I really felt sorry for her sitting there at dinner, but I was plotting an escape route before the meal was over. These traits in my SO showed up only when emotions got high, so up until then, I just brushed them off; most people aren’t at their best when angry/annoyed/upset. But after that dinner, it was not ignorable.” —u/rareas 7. “I made up this personality for him because he was mostly quiet. So I just pretended he was this creative, funny, intelligent guy. I was with him for almost a year before I realized that silence doesn’t equal intelligence.” 8. “His mom told me I could do better than her son. A lot of people had told me this, but it didn’t really mean anything until she said it.” —u/ennaneked 9. “I could deal with, ‘You should dress up/wear high heels more often.’ I could even deal with, ‘You should wear more makeup.’ What I could not deal with was, ‘You should think less.’ That was a direct quote. And that wasn’t a one-off.” 10. “He wouldn’t perform oral on me ever because he said it was demeaning and got so pissy when I wouldn’t give him blow jobs. In general, I felt used.” —u/[deleted] 11. “I told her that I was breaking up with her because she could never get her priorities straight about our relationship. While this is somewhat true, the real reason I broke up with her was because she felt too safe with me. She was doing worse in school because she felt like she only needed me. She was slowly driving away her friends because we would spend a lot of time together and was constantly having problems with her family because I was in her life. It’s been a year now, and in this time, she’s grown to have a healthy relationship with her friends and family and has not only brought herself back up in school but also found and began pursuing what she wants to do in life. She kind of hates me now, but I’m fine with that.” 12. “My niece died. The day before her funeral, I called him crying. He told me to ‘just get over it.'” —u/srh6 13. “I wasn’t physically attracted to him. It may sound shallow, but relationships need a physical aspect. Ours didn’t have that — it was purely emotional, and I ended up suffering because I wasn’t physically interested in him. I would never tell him this, though, because it would crush him.” 14. “His mother had depression and would go missing for a couple of days at a time. He was given warnings at work for when he was late because he was looking after his mother, and he was too proud to tell them what was going on. He really is a wonderful person, and I still care for him. I couldn’t tell him I had been diagnosed with depression, too; he had enough on his plate already, and I didn’t want to burden him with the thought I could turn out like his mother.” —u/ifeelsosoft 15. “I broke up with my last ex because I found myself completely repulsed by him. He smoked, drank, ate nothing but junk food, and farted like a Clydesdale in his sleep all night long. His car was disgusting — it stunk, and the interior was covered in ashes and cigarette butts. The seats had tater tots ground into them, and you couldn’t even see the floorboards through all the trash. His house was absolutely filthy, too. It stunk of old smoke and cooking grease, had old newspapers piled up in the corners, and you couldn’t even tell what color the carpets had originally been.” 16. “He said he couldn’t love someone who didn’t love Jesus. He tried to convert me to being straight with religion (I’m bi). I just told him that I didn’t like him that way anymore because I thought I was a bigot for not agreeing with his religion. I should have told him that he was a jerk for trying to make me be religious and making me hide who I am.” —u/KTcube 17. “I broke up with my ex because of a Hot Pocket. He was staying at my house because his mother (he was 23) kicked him out of his own place. He went grocery shopping for himself for the very first time and bought only a bulk assortment of Hot Pockets. Upon opening the first one, he went into a dead serious, very angry manic frenzy because he didn’t understand how to microwave it. And I quote, yelled, “WHAT THE FUCK IS A CRISPING SLEEVE?” I told him I wasn’t ready for him to live with me and that I needed my space. That goddamn Hot Pocket was the straw that broke the camel’s back.” 18. “He had come home from work and spent quite a while in the bathroom. When he finally got into bed and asked me to spoon him, there it was: He had yellow-orangish chunky mustard shit smeared all up his ass crack. I just couldn’t deal with that. I immediately excused myself to the restroom and then pretended like I had an urgent call. I told him I had to go home, and then the next day, I dumped him. He thinks I dumped him because I wasn’t that into him.” —u/NegativecapS Is there a secret reason you ended your relationship that you never revealed during your breakup? Tell us about it in the comments or fill out this anonymous form.
